Perfectly Imperfect
Exactly as you were intended to be 🌗
Do you ever think about a time where you acted from a place that wasn't fully aligned with who you aspire to be? It’s easy to judge ourselves, spiral, and make it mean something about who we are. It’s not a time to shame or condemn yourself, it’s a moment of information. Every “bad” decision is showing you something. Your body, your mind, your actions— they are always giving you feedback, guiding you toward a more aligned version of yourself. Sometimes that guidance comes through contrast.
The bad news? These parts of you don’t just disappear.
The good news? These parts of you don’t just disappear.
No matter how much work you do, how many coaching sessions, classes, or practices you commit to, there will always be parts of you that feel darker, reactive, or less evolved. That doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It means you’re human.
For a long time, I thought those parts of me needed to be fixed, pushed away, or outgrown. But they don’t go away overnight, and they’re not meant to. In the coaching space, we call this shadow work, but really it’s just the parts of you that haven’t been fully seen, accepted, or integrated yet. The more you judge or repress these parts, the more they persist.
When you learn to observe without attaching shame, something shifts. You create space. And in this space, you gain power. Shadows only hold weight when they remain hidden. When you bring awareness to them, you begin to understand them, and when you understand them, you’re no longer controlled by them.
I had a moment recently where I didn’t act as my highest self, and I felt it. That subtle disconnect, that knowing. Not from a place of shame, but from awareness. And instead of spiraling, I sat with it. Because this is the work. Not avoiding those moments, but meeting them. Not proving that you’ve outgrown something, but being honest enough to see it when it shows up.
A client once asked why they keep having to revisit the same patterns, and I explained it like looking at a field of grass. At first, you see it as one whole. Then you look closer and start to notice the different shades of green followed by individual blades. Eventually, you begin to notice the texture, the depth, the detail that was always there. The field didn’t change. Your awareness did. The same is true for you. The patterns don’t just disappear, but your relationship to them changes. You begin to notice them sooner, what leads to them, and eventually, you catch yourself before you fully fall into them. That’s where your power is.
Return to Yourself
Mini Mission for Meeting Yourself Without Judgement
✨ Catch the Moment
(10 energy points)
At some point today, notice a moment where you don’t show up as your highest self. A reaction, a thought, a choice. Nothing big. Just something that feels slightly off.
Pause there.
🪞 Observe Without Judgment
(20 energy points)
Instead of analyzing it or making it mean something about you, simply notice it. Feel where it lands in your body. The sensation, the energy, the shift. Let yourself see it clearly, without labeling it as good or bad.
🌿 Choose Again, Gently
(30 energy points)
Take one breath. Soften. And remind yourself that you are allowed to begin again, right here. Not from pressure, not from shame, but from awareness.
Let that be enough.
You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to get it right every time. You just need to be aware enough to return to yourself, again and again.
You are allowed to be imperfect and still deeply aligned with who you are becoming.
XO, Liv
